Showing posts with label Compassion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Compassion. Show all posts

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Can LOVE be shared equally for all?


Love is one of the important thing that one cannot live without. Children misbehave due to lacking of love. Partners hurt due to abuse of love. Family members suffer because of losing someone they love. Love hurts but love heals too. So, how do we define love?

It all begins from Family Love when it shares among a family members since a baby is born. Then, it extends to Friends Love when it grows and starts to mix with others whom are not its family members. Later, it grows to Couple Love when it meets someone it loves and if it continues, it goes back to Family Love as a new born has arrived. And the patterns continues..

Does Love only restrict to this pattern? 
Does Love only happens among family members, friends and couples? 
Does Love have to focus only to these groups? 

Do you know what kind of Love hurt?
Do you know why does these Love hurt?  

The kind of Love hurts most is the Love with the most attachment which is usually related to Family, Couple & Friends Love. These Love hurts because of too much attachment, focus and expectation. 

You suffer when you attach too much especially when one of these Love leaves you. 
You suffer when you focus too much by putting too much time, effort and energy just by hoping these Love will be with you forever but nothing is permanence. 
You suffer when you expect too much or high on these Love which is so important to you but when things gone wrong, you couldn't accept it and feel disappointed.

The Truth is Relationship just like any other things in this world is impermanence. In a Family Love, Couple Love or Friend Love, someone might leave due to the Natural Suffering of a human being; Born, Old, Sick, Death. Separating is part of a relationship. Someone might not be perfect to cherish and shower others with perfect love. Expectation and promises might not be able to fulfilled. And many more..

So, since Love is impermanence but it is something very important to have, why don't we share it. Share it with others which are not our family, friends, couple or relatives. Share it with strangers. Share it with those who need it. Share it with animals. Share it with sentient beings. Share it with all...

Besides, that's the purpose of life, right? To help others. Helping others doesn't focus only on cash or monetary or material but most people are hungered for love and attention. And that's the most valuable and precious thing that all sentient beings ever wanted, agree? And it is for free.

If you love too much, you will focus too much.
If you focus too much, you will expect too much.
If you expect too much, you will attach too much.
If you attach too much, you will hurt too much.

So, love should be shared equally for all without expecting anything in return unconditionally. 
Remember, to love is to be loved. To be loved is to love. Everything begins from you. The more love you give, the more love you receive. Even better, if you don't expect at all. True happiness comes when you least expect it. So, go ahead and love equally for all. 

May all be well and be loved. 






Sunday, May 20, 2012

The Buddha's Quotes




The Buddha's Quotes

 “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” - Buddha 

 “All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”- Buddha

 “To understand everything is to forgive everything” - Buddha

   “You cannot travel the path until you have become the path itself” - Buddha

·        “There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.” - Buddha

“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.” - Buddha

  “You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” - Buddha

The understanding of the Law of Karma (Cause and Effect) constitute an important aspect of wisdom. It enables us to develop patience, tolenrance and understanding when confronted with obstacles and challenges in our daily lives. It instills in us a sense of responsibility, self reliance and confidence, providing us with a proper sense of purpose and direction in life. – Buddha

“To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others” - Buddha



“Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.” - Buddha



“An idea that is developed and put into action is more important than an idea that exists only as an idea.” - Buddha

“However many holy words you read,However many you speak,What good will they do you If you do not act on upon them?” - Buddha

“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” - Buddha

“Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” - Buddha

“Have compassion for all beings, rich and poor alike; each has their suffering. Some suffer too much, others too little.” - Buddha

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” - Buddha

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” - Buddha

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” - Buddha



" If a man speaks or acts with pure thought, joy will follow him, like the shadow that never leaves him." - Buddha


"Life is an illusion. A dream, a bubble, a shadow. Nothing is permanent. Nothing is worthy of anger. Nothing is worthy of dispute. Nothing." – Buddha

"The gift of Truth overcomes all gifts. The joy of Truth overcomes all pleasure. The taste of Truth overcomes all sweetness." - Buddha

"Even if everyone else is not doing good, I alone will. Even if everyone else is doing wrong, I alone will not." - Buddha

"In the light of his vision, he has found his freedom. His thoughts are Peace. His words are Peace. His work are Peace." - Buddha

“We already have perfect compassion, perfect wisdom, perfect joy. We only need to settle our minds so that they arise from deep within us.” – Buddha

"Focus not on the rudeness of others, not on what they've done or left undone, but on what you have and have not done yourself." - Buddha

“Our problems are not solved by physical force, by hatred, by war. Our problems are solved by loving kindness, by gentleness, by joy.” - Buddha













Saturday, May 19, 2012

I am an official Dharma Teacher


I am an official Dharma Teacher today. It was coincidence and unexpectedly. Now I know the true meaning of unexpected happiness when you least expect it. It happened out of sudden when I enrolled my kids to a Dharma School in one of the Buddhist Organization in Malaysia. Yes, all the while since my awakening, I was intended to be a Dharma Teacher. But somehow in my heart, I thought to myself as I am not qualified to be one. Who am I? I am just a beginner who has just realized and awakened about this spiritual path about 6 months ago. I did a lot of research and reading on my own about Buddhism since awakening. My love and passion towards this wonderful , meaningful and noble journey has deepen day to day. I am actually glad that I know so little as I will have more opportunity to learn as much as possible. Honest speaking, this is the first time I wish for myself, I have never prayed for anything for myself except for my family members and others. But somehow, this is my exceptional. I wish to be permanently with this Buddhist spiritual path until I reach Nirvana to help more sentient beings reaching enlightenment in their lives. I am happy that my prayer has been heard. Thank you, Lord Buddha.  May I be blessed with higher attainment to help end suffering among all beings reaching enlightenment. Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!  

Quotes and Journal From My Facebook Since Awakening


"Buddha" in Sankrit literally means the awakened one. Here, to be awakened means his mind was fully awakened in the form of great compassion and wisdom - a wisdom about the true nature of reality and a compassion that encompasses all living beings. It is these qualities that are referred to here in the word Buddha - to be awakened.

I have actually stopped myself from receiving any helps from anyone but someone has awakened me today. We need a benefactor to help us achieving our dreams. I thought of that way because I didn't want to owe anyone anything but the true is receiving is actually giving too. Maybe the benefactor needs my help or skill to achieve his/her target too. It's a win win situation. Then I realise and I accept.

This is truly miracle and inspiring! Don't know why I have these "unexplainable" thoughts all these years. I know we are "related" and will be united under one God but I thought this is just my believe. Never knew that this video revealved and answered all my "abstract" belief. Moreover, I was told about my future this morning. God is showing me something Dato' and I think it's time and I am ready to dedicate it whole heatedly. 
(I used the term God because I was not realized yet) 


We are one from the very beginning and we will unite back as one very soon!

Life is actually a circle. Whatever you have encountered before, you'll encounter it again and it does not stop but continues to return when you reach back that circle.

If you really see within your sight, feel within your heart and think within your mind, you will see more things, more things around you that have not been discovered yet.



The same circle can be both good and bad. If we ignore it, it will return after a period a time when you reach back the full circle. If good, then it's great. If bad, then we must face and solve it properly before it return.

If good, we must grab it because it won't be that great as time is passing by and we are getting older. If we miss again, we need to wait for another round and sometimes can be too late because life is temporary.

             Do you believe in past lives or cause and effect? Your present life is the effect of your past life. Your present life is the cause of your next life and your next life is the effect of your present life.

With a focus mind practicing from meditation, you can help creating world peace by lessening sufferings among people. Let's unite and meditate.

Everything happens for a reason. You will know it when you understand the fundamental and origin of existing in this world.

Each of us is unique and has a purpose to be brought into this world. What is your purpose of life?

Punishment is not the best solution of everything but compassion, love and encouragement are.

Forgive, forgave and be forgiven. It starts from forgiving yourself before forgiving others.

We will go through different stages in our lives. The stages will be in a circle form. Once we have passed every stage, we will be back to the basic where we came from.

Stop sharing and spreading bad news and negativities that pollute our mind, heart and soul. Help to share and spread good news to help this world a better world. Appreciate it very much. P E A C E 

·          I've learnt that what we have and posses from the outside is just something surface and temporary. What we really have and posses comes from inside which is permanent.

Do good deeds. Speak good words. Think good thoughts.
Life is just about doing, speaking and thinking all the good and wonderful things in the world. Nothing more than these.

It's okay to feel lost or down sometimes as it's part of our lives. Just accept it and grab the moment to reflect deeply and meditate on how to improve in our lives that matters. Never give up.  

Now I know the true meaning of charity. Nothing is greater than be part of the goal to free all beings from sufferings and to reach universal peace. Admire the effort, time and determination of all the organizers and the participants. Life is truly wonderful. 
P E A C E 

The basic of giving is forgiving. The basic of forgiving is forgiving ourselves.

What we can see is just something surface. What we really live comes from within.


·     I'm going to continue my path no matter what. Ain't no mountain can't be climbed. Ain't no sea can't be crossed. Ain't no problem can't be solved. I'm going to finish, finish strong, steadily and calmly. This I promise to myself.

Helping people in needs is my passion and responsibility. P E A C E

         There's a fine line between LOVE and COMPASSION. Love comes from feeling; compassion comes from wisdom. Love is impermance but compassion permanence.

    Now I know the true meaning of charity. Nothing is greater than be part of the goal to free all beings from sufferings and to reach universal peace. Admire the effort, time and determination of all the organizers and the participants. Life is truly wonderful.  
       
         The basic of giving is forgiving. The basic of forgiving is forgiving ourselves.
            The three most POISONOUS things in our lives are greed, anger and ignorance.

Let it flow by itself as it is destiny to be. There's no use rushing. Time will decide when it is right. Be patience.


We are living in the world of cause and effect (Karma). First, learn to accept that the sufferings that we are facing now were the effects of our actions in the past. Then, seek for forgiveness and learn to let go. Lastly, do deeds and merits. With these, sufferings from all beings will be stopped and universal peace will be created. 

The 3 Learnings as according to Buddhism:
Discipline, Concentration and Wisdom
Discipline cures vice. Concentration cures confusion. Wisdom cures foolishness.

 Why people can't just let go and stop thinking about the past? Why they want to keep trapping themselves in this stressful and suffering lives? Why can't they just accept, forgive themselves and move on to be a better people as present is more important? Stop complaining, blaming and giving excuses! We should be thankful that we are given chance. Find solution is the only answer for now and not others!

·  We are the creator of our own world. If we live in hell, it's because we create hell within us. If we live in heaven, it's because we create heaven within us. No one else except ourselves.

In life, whatever we own regardless relationship, achievements and materials are impermanence and changing frequently. Being too attached with them will only result of never ending sufferings. 

If I know I have only 3 years left, I would live my life by the fullest and appreciate every little thing that I have surround me. I achieve that by setting very specific SMART goals, plan in details and take massive actions accordingly without looking back and I know I would achieve all my goals within 3 years. Why? Because I know I only have limited time, so I grab every opportunity possible and ultilize my time wisely without wasting any of them.

Life is actually filled with trials and errors. It is meant to test our patience and understanding of the message appears along our path. Just remember to remain positive no matter what as the result will be seen when the time is right.

We don't get everything that we give in return. The right way is to give without expecting anything in return.


We don't have to struggle too much to achieve something. The right way is to put enough effort and time to achieve something that we want. It is achievable when the time is right. Patience and persistency are what we need.

What we experience from the outside is the result of what we think within. If we think peace, we experience peace. If we think war, we experience war. It's just as simple as that and nothing more.



In Buddhism, love is based wisdom. This is called compassion.















































Friday, May 18, 2012

Buddhism Activities in Malaysia




Welcome to KCBA English Section Activities Update:
20.5.12 Sunday
8.45 a.m.   -  Buddha Puja & Chanting (in Mandarin & English) @ Main Shrine Hall, GF
10.00 a.m. – Dhamma talk Bro. Tan Huat Chye  entitled:  "Parents' Love: Buddhist Perspective" at Meditation Room, 2nd Floor.
Guided Pali Chanting (Thai Style) lesson on every Monday night by Bro. Wan Wah Boon,
Time    :  8.30 p.m.
Venue  : Main Shrine Hall, Ground Floor
For further detail, please contact Bro. Wan @ 0123779815.
22.5.12 Tuesday
Come and join us for a devotional night in Pali chanting, Dhamma sharing and hymn singing. 
Time    :  8.30 p.m.
Venue  :  Main shrine hall, Ground Floor
For further detail, please feel free to contact Bro. Michael @ 012 6951817 or Bro. Lee Ee Chai @ 016 6626030.
May  you be well, happy and peaceful always.
 With Metta
KCBAenglish Section Moderator
E-mail : KCBAenglish@yahoogroups.com
The Klang & Coast Buddhist Association
Lot  465, KM 2, Persiaran Tengku Ampuan Rahimah, 41200 Klang, Selangor,
Malaysia. Tel / Fax : 603-33721902

Let's learn more about Buddhism


The Story of Buddha


Siddhartha - whose name means "the one whose objective is attained" - was born into a noble family around the year 560 AC. in the city of Kapilavastu in Nepal. 
     Queen Maya had a vision: six elephants, each one with a lotus flower on his back, were coming in her direction. The next instant, Siddhartha was conceived.
     During her pregnancy, Queen Maya, his mother, decided to call the wise men in the kingdom to interpret the vision she had had, and they were unanimous in affirming that the child about to be brought into the world would be a great king or a great priest. 
     Siddhartha's childhood and adolescence were very like ours; his parents wanted by all means to protect their son from knowing about the misery of the world. So he led his life confined between the walls of the gigantic palace where his parents lived and where everything seemed perfect and harmonious. He married, had a son and knew only the pleasures and delights of life. 
     One night, however, when he turned 29, he asked one of the guards to take him into town. The guard objected, for the king could become furious, but Siddhartha was so insistent that the man eventually gave in, and they left the palace together. 
     The first thing they saw was an old beggar with a sad expression on his face, asking for alms. Further ahead they came across a group of lepers, and right after them a funeral procession passed by. "I have never seen this before!" he must have said to the guard, who may have answered: "Well, that's old age, and that's disease, and death." On their way back to the palace, they came upon a holy man, his hair shorn and wearing only a yellow cloak, who said: "my life was a torment, so I have given everything up so that I don't have to incarnate as myself and suffer old age and sickness and death all over again." 
     The following night, Siddhartha waited until his wife and son had fallen asleep. He entered the room quietly, kissed them both and again asked the guard to escort him out of the palace; there he handed him his sword with the jewel-set hilt, his clothes made with the finest tissues that the human hand could weave, asking him to return them all to his father; then he shaved his head, covered his body with a yellow mantle and set out in search of an answer to the suffering of the world. 
     For many years he wandered all over the north of India, meeting monks and holy men who traveled around there, learning the oral traditions that spoke of reincarnation, illusion and paying for the sins of past lives (karma). When he felt that he had learned enough, he built himself a shelter on the banks of the River Nairanjana, where he lived doing penance and meditating. 
     His life style and will power ended up drawing the attention of other men who in their search for the truth came to him for spiritual advice. But after six long years, all that Siddhartha could notice was that his body was weaker and weaker and the constant infections did not let him meditate as he should. 
     The legend says that one morning, when he went into the river to make his toilet, he no longer had the strength to rise. When he was about to drown, a tree bent down its branches and let him clutch to them not to be swept away by the current. Exhausted, he managed to reach the river bank before fainting. 
     Hours later, a peasant passed by, a milk-vendor who offered him a little food. Siddhartha accepted, to the disgust of the other men who lived there with him. Believing that saint no longer to possess the strength to resist temptation, they decided to leave him immediately. But he gladly drank the milk offered him, feeling that it was a sign from God and a heaven-sent blessing. 
     Encouraged by the meal he had just eaten, he lent no importance to being abandoned by his old disciples; he sat himself down next to a fig-tree and decided to go on meditating about life and suffering. To test him, the god Mara sent three of his daughters to try to distract him with thoughts of sex, thirst, and the pleasures of life. But Siddhartha was so absorbed in his meditation that he did not notice any of this; at that very moment he was experiencing a sort of revelation, remembering all his past lives. As he did so, he also recalled the lessons he had forgotten (all men learn the necessary, but rarely are we are able to put to use what we have learned). 
     In his state of ecstasy, he experienced Paradise (Nirvana), where "there is no earth, nor water, nor fire, nor air, it is neither this world nor another world, and there is no sun, no moon, no birth and no death. There lies the end of all of man's suffering." 
     When that morning came to an end, he had reached the true meaning of life and become Buddha (the Enlightened One). But instead of remaining in this state for the rest of his days, he decided to go back to living among others and to teach everyone all that he had learned and experienced. 
     He who once was called Siddhartha, now transformed into Buddha, left behind him the tree under whose branches he had managed to reach enlightenment, and set out for the city of Sarnath, where he met his old companions and drew a circle on the ground to represent the wheel of existence that leads constantly to birth and death. He explained that he had not been happy as a prince who owned everything, nor had he learned wisdom through total renunciation. What human beings should seek in order to reach Paradise was the so-called "middle way": neither seeking pain, nor being a slave to pleasure.
     Impressed at what they heard from Buddha, the men decided to follow him on his pilgrimages from town to town. As they heard the good news, more and more disciples joined the group, and Buddha began to organize communities of devotees, following the principle that they could help one another mutually in the duties of body and spirit. 
     On one of his journeys, Buddha returned to his home town, where his father grieved deeply on seeing him begging for alms. But he kissed his father's feet and said: "you, Sire, belong to a lineage of kings, but I belong to a lineage of Buddhas, and millions of them also lived begging for alms." The king remembered the prophecy that had been made when his son was conceived, and made his peace with Buddha. His son and his wife, who for so many years had complained of having been abandoned, eventually understood his mission and founded a community which began to spread his teachings.
     When he was approaching the age of eighty, he ate something spoiled and realized he was going to die of food poisoning. Helped by his disciples, he managed to travel as far as Kusinhagara, where he lay down for the last time beside a tree.
     Buddha called his cousin Ananda and said:
     - "I am old and my pilgrimage in this life is nearing its end. My body looks like an old cart that has been used a great deal and is still working only because some of its parts are precariously tied up with straps of leather. But that's enough, now it's time to go."
     Then he turned to his disciples and asked if anyone had any doubts. Nobody said a word. He asked the same question three times, but they all remained in silence. 
     Buddha died smiling. His teachings, today codified in the form of a philosophical religion, are spread across most of Asia. In essence, they consist of understanding oneself profoundly and having a deep respect for one's neighbor. 
http://warriorofthelight.com/engl/edi72_brev.shtml



Buddhism in Perspective (Summary)


1.  Eight Sufferings
     Birth, decay, sickness, death, seperation, meeting the unfriendly, failure and aggregates

2.  Five Characteristics of Life
     Sickness, old age, seperation, death and kamma

3.  Five Hindrances in the Mind
     Craving, ill-will, laziness, restlessness and doubt (indecision)

4.  Three Evil Roots
     Greed, anger and delusion

5.  Eight Worldly Conditions
     Gain & loss, fame & blame, honour & dishonour, happiness & sorrow

6.  Ten Fetters
     Illusion of self, skeptical doubt, belief in rites and rituals, craving for worldly pleasure,  
     anger, hatred and ill-will, craving for fine material world, craving for non-physical body, 
     pride, restlessness and ignorance.

7.  Four Elements
     Earth, fire, water and wind

8.  Five Aggregates
     Form, sensation, perception, conception and consciousness

9.  The Middle Path and The Three Advices
     Not to go to extremes. Not to do bad actions, to do good and purify the mind.

10. Dependent Origination
      Cause and Effect

11. Four Noble Truths
      Suffering, cause of suffering, cessation of suffering and the path leading to the 
      cessation of suffering

12. Three Universal Characteristics
      Change, suffering and soul-lessness

13.  Twelve Links in Dependent upon Origination
       Ignorance, conditioned activities, relinking consciousness, mind and matter, six 
       spheres of senses, contact, feeling, craving, grasping, volitional activities, birth and 
       death

14.  Thirty Seven Constituents of Enlightenment:
       -   Noble Eight-fold Path - right understanding, right thought, right speech, right 
           action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness and right concentration
       -   Four foundations of mindfulness - concentration on the body, concentration on 
           feelings, concentration on the mind and concentration on mind objects.
       -   Four mind efforts - Efforts to abandon, effort to prevent bad thoughts, effort to 
           develop and effort to maintain good thoughts
       -   Four bases of success - Zeal, effort, wisdom and mindfulness
       -   Five faculties - Faith, effort, mindfulness, concentration and understanding
       -   Five powers - Faith, effort, mindfulness, concentration, and understanding
       -   Seven enlightening factors - Mindfulness, truth investigation, effort, joy, 
           tranquillity, concentration and equanimity

15.   Noble Eight-fold Path already mentioned

16.   Ten Meritorious Deeds
        Generosity, discipline, meditation, reverence to teachers, sympathetic, joy, learning 
        the Dhamma, spreading the Dhamma and straightening one's view

17.   Ten Perfections
        Generosity, discipline, renunciation, wisdom, effort, patience, determination, 
        truthfulness, universal love and equanimity